How to Tie and Tease advice for lovers
by Sep.24, 2010, under Latest GFE to Dom, Fetish and BDSM escort news, Sexy Escorts Blog posts
onHi guys! I know I’ve been away for a while and I will tell you all about it… soon, but I have to get this off my chest 😉 While on my travels the topic of tie and tease seemed to be coming up more than usual and by more than usual I mean A LOT. It seems to be the topic of conversation for “girls of a certain age”. Many many questions: How far to go? How to start? What to do? Dominate or be submissive? Toys or not? What equipment? The first time the topic came up I started to giggle and with a dismissive “yeh well, you know…” I was about to change the topic when I realized the five “girls” I was talking to in the hotel bar were looking at me as if I was a cross between the Buddha and Mata Hari! While I’m away, if I’m in one place for any length of time I get talking to a lot of different people and as you men may or may not know it doesn’t take too long before any group of girls gets onto the topic of men and sex, especially when there is any amount of drink on the menu. The group and the individuals I met on my latest trip seemed genuinely intrigued, confused and slightly, well, scared about tie and tease with their boyfriends or husbands and seemed relieved to find someone that could talk them through a scenario or two. So for both the boys and the girls I thought I’d give you a taste of my experience and try to put together a simple introductory guide to tie and tease. So here we go….
Tie and tease crosses many different and common sexual fantasies for both men and women. Most women fantasies about being “taken” by a powerful man, and also fantasies about “being in charge” sexually, and a perfect way to “be in charge” sexually is to have the man tied down! This is very liberating for both the man and the woman, trust me it is… if you havent tried it, try it! Men have similar fantasies along similar lines, having sexual power and also being submissive. Both very common fantasies and yet many, many, couples never explore these fantasies together, when the chances are both parties are having the same thoughts and harbouring very similar fantasies!
I’m no agony aunt so I’m not going to advise you on how to talk to your partner! For tie and tease the main piece of equipment you need is imagination and once you’ve started talking, and playing, you’ll soon know what I mean! If you don’t know whether your a sexual submissive, or if you prefer to be sexually dominant there’s only one way to find out!
For a simple start a dressing gown waist cord is ideal! I know, it’s so obvious! and yes I know you’ve thought of it before but come on you and I both know it’s as if they designed these things specially so that everyone has a handy cord for tying their lovers wrists together! Trust me you
’ll never look at a dressing gown in quite the same way again! Take the cord off, make a looped slip-knot at one end (Google it), and then suggest that your lover gives you their hands, wrists together. I suggest that you need to be confident and sexually alluring at this point and have your lover “hot and ready”, don’t just walk into the room while he’s watching the football and say “give me your hands!”. It might work and if it does, good for you! When all worked up and hot and sexy, they invariably will put their wrists together, don’t forget you’ve been having the same fantasies! Hold the other end and stat having fun, your lover may even suggest tying the other end to the bed, before you do! Trust me this will happen and there you have it! Your lover is now tied down, welcome to the world of tie and tease! But what to do now? Well its back to your main weapon, imagination!
I love the term tie-and-tease, its so direct, and descriptive. Everyone, male and female loves a little sexual teasing. Arousing, arousal almost to the point of cuming and then… slow it down to begin again. This of course cannot be kept going for ever and release and orgasm must be delivered, that’s all down to timing, and the better you know your lover and the more empathy you have and the more you play together the better and more satisfying it will become. Unless like me, you have a natural talent for reading sexual build-up and sexual timing either way
you’ll find this very rewarding and you’ll have your lover hooked immediately! Not something you can put on your CV, natural sexual timing and a gift for giving massive orgasms to both male and female, not a well received CV unfortunately, no matter how gifted you are!
Once you have your lover tied down, tease; don’t just go through your usual menu of positions! A lot of couples, if not all, fall into the routine eventually, and some quite quickly. You know the routine…. do this, then that, then that, then that…. routine of sex. Think of this as a way to break that, if that is were you’re at. If not well done and remember, everyone, men and women love to be brought to the brink of orgasm time and again and then to be given the orgasm of their lives! Who wouldn’t love that! That’s what tie and tease is all about: As the submissive receiving treatment that brings you to the brink of orgasm time and again and then having the massive orgasm delivered (perhaps with any number of physical delights in the mean-time). As the Dominant partner, being “in-charge” of the build up, the choice of what happens next, timing of and delivery method of the eventual massive orgasm! Both parties are winners. Most people are happier as one or the other but a little light tie and tease most can be either tied or teasing 😉
Use your mouth, hands, breasts, pussy or cock, in equal measure. Don’t just dive in enjoy the naked writhing body in front of you, enjoy when your lover is tied down, be in charge! Be gentle to start with, but be in charge and be imaginative! Ice cubes, whipped cream, strawberries, baby oil, ask first before going further with things like candle wax and nipple clamps 🙂
Most of the questions were akin to the questions any virgin would ask and as we all know sex is no big deal. But as with most things in life, sex is easy to get wrong, more difficult to get right, and in my experience tie-and-tease is always down to timing, imagination and empathy.
Submit to the moment and deliver at the right time, take charge at the right time and keep it fresh!
Don’t be afraid to experiment!
P.S Have fun with the bathrobes and dressing gowns! 😉